I’ve done both the extremely rural survival and the big city version. I currently live on the outskirts of a town of about 100K people in a nice neighborhood where you still see kids riding their bikes up and down the sidewalks until the streetlights come on.
I really did enjoy living in all of these locations but I ran into a security issue at our rural homestead that made me reconsider it as a longterm plan. We had 3 men show up and try to insist on coming into my home to make a phone call. It would have taken the police 45 minutes to arrive (if that) and I believe they were only deterred by the fact I had a gun. At that place, we didn’t have any neighbors within screaming distance. I truly loved the solitude, but I fear that during a real SHTF event, we would have been targets since it’s just me and my teenage daughter.