I would have to go about 15 miles if I need to bug out with my ex, my daughter, and his family. I am welcome and we have spoken about this several times. He is proficient in fire arms, hunting, being a mechanic, and uses and repairs two cycle engines. His mother and my daughter are great in sewing, crocheting, and repairing a variety of items as well as cooking. I can, preserve, dehydrate, and can cook from scratch including breads. I have knowledge of foraging and have a variety of books on the topics. I have been a nurse for years and have taken several different types of first aid classes. My daughter works for the Red Cross and is really good at reacting in a disaster and keeping herself and everyone else calm. We have other members who can repair things, cut wood, hunt, fish, etc. I need to keep examining this scenario to see what else we need to get covered.
If I have to stay at my home, I have a lot of items here to use but the neighbors are more for themselves. I found out where I would stand with them when my husband died. Within a few days, no one came around. It was a hard but a good lesson. Rather find out now than when SHTF!