Wow!
We saw something very similar when my eldest daughter went away to college. Her first semester, she lived in the dorm apartments with a roommate. They had a shared kitchen and each had their own room and bathroom.
Well, my daughter was perfectly fine, cooking her meals, doing her laundry, making good grades. But other girls absolutely could not handle life on their own. They were always asking my daughter to help them with the simplest things, “borrowing” tea and sugar, dealing with stains. It was ridiculous. My daughter finally moved out of the dorm into a regular apartment after one semester because she just couldn’t handle mothering an entire building.
I think kids like ours are not the norm these days. It can really be tough to be around a bunch of people who see the world so differently.