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Crow Bar 10 months, 1 week ago.
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Lack of connections to people, in real space, is a mental heal issue.
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blame no fault divorcE/ reproductive freedom, blame bad parenting or lack of parenting, welfare for single mom’s. Without a good family to support a child the chances of them becoming a productive member of society reaches less than 20
percent. https://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/statements/2013/apr/18/john-duncan/rep-john-duncan-jr-says-90-percent-felons-grew-fat/
He is woing nearer to 60 percent but that is a crazy amount and is beyond coincidence. This needs to be addressed in family Court system expecially definition of child’s best interest.
How does this relate to children? A single parent simply can not spend the time needed to raise a child alone period you don’t have enough hours in a day to do the job well. Anyone can half ass a job and look at the result, who pays for it? Yeah that would.be the rest of us.first complaint or retort well is is did it and my kids are ok. For the few that are ok they missed out on something no matter how good a mom or dad you are each brings something special to a family along with other relations like grandparents and aunts and uncles with cousins. Then comes the guy was a loser abandoned family… who picked him to sleep with? Who didn’t use one of 30 plus types of birth control?
I am saying idea that a single parent family is the ok norm is not ok and because we have supported this it is heavily contributing to societal issue we are having. There is a huge cost to single parent households. I know this is un popular and I will catch flak for saying this but numbers are hard to argue with. Why do certain segments of society fail look at family structure or lack thier of.
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@namelus,
I mean this with respect, but fu$K you.My ex had a moment (like for 2 years) and I was a single parent IN the USMC.
And as far as I can tell, I did a damn good job of it. So my daughter says.
My daughter graduated from college, a semester early, Magna cum laude. She has a good head on her shoulders.And I have known a number of single women who have done great jobs as parents, filling in for both rolls.
So, bugger off.
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This reply was modified 10 months, 2 weeks ago by Crow Bar.
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Oh, and I am pretty sure Daisy herself did a good job with what she had happen to her.
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You’re damn right you’ll catch flak for it and well you should.
I’ve been a single mother for almost 17 years. Shortly after my divorce, my ex-husband passed away, so when I say single, I mean single. And – gasp – we were even on welfare for 3 months during my singlehood because it was that or let my kids go hungry. I’m not ashamed to admit we were at the bottom of the barrel financially and digging myself out was hard.
But once I got my feet on the ground, I made sure that my kids did not go without anything that would have been provided for them had their father lived.
…I put both girls through college debt-free. I saved and worked my ass off to do it.
…I disciplined them and they are some of the kindest and most courteous young women you could ever meet.
…I made sure they had positive male role models around them in the form of grandpas, uncles, and my coworkers when I ran an automotive shop.
…I kept them well-fed, well-clothed, healthy, and happy.
…They took piano lessons, gymnastics lessons, and French lessons, just like the well-rounded children of families with both a mom and a dad.They have gone on to be happy, well-adjusted, and successful adults. We are as close-knit as it’s possible for a family to be.
It’s the most insulting thing in the world for people who have no idea of what my marriage was like to act as though I’m a crappy mother JUST for being a single one. I know many other excellent single mothers, too. We work HARD. We do it ALL. And at the same time, I also know both married and single parents who are doing a piss-poor job raising their children.
To demean and vilify all single parents as the cause of some fall of humanity…well, that’s a mindblowing generalization.
And generalization is a sign of lazy thinking. That’s something else this single mama taught her kids.
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If this is so good and you want it to be the normal would you tell your kids to be a single parent?
I am sure never during whole time did you feel like wow would a helping partner be nice.
Like all other decisions and events in life looking back we all see a point we cold have changed things and use that to steer clear of same mistake in future, why do you defend being a single parent like it is something good? Yeah you guys did best in tough situation but more people have failures than success. We need to find way to increase. Chance of successfully maintaining a cohesive nuclear family as without it numbers show the kids pay for it… single parenthood as a norm is going to cost society big time because most people won’t or can’t do as @daisy and @crowbar. How many failures do you know compared to good results?
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I just deleted a fairly long response talking about real friends vs. social network contacts, mutual support, social safety nets, and stress-induced aberrant behavior. Then I realized I was just pissing into the wind.
We’re undergoing a collapse. The causes are myriad. It’s going to run its course no matter what “solutions” we try individually or collectively. We’re facing multiple predicaments; resource constraints, financial instability, environmental degradation, an economic environment dependent on continuous growth, and a political environment dependent on promising a continuously better future for different constituents, even though a “better future” for one constituency is often in direct conflict with that of another constituency.
By definition, a predicament has no solution other than trashing the system that caused the predicament in the first place and starting over. There’s going to be a lot more trashing going on.
The only thing knowable about where we’re going is there will be a lot fewer people involved.
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True mouse….. too late on this ride we are off the rails.
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“Friends” is a very nebulous term.
Focus on quality, not quantity.
I’d rather have 5 “real” friends than 50 superficial friends….or 500 FB friends.
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Well said Casper Ship.
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