November 5, 2018 at 3:35 pm #3166
Goatlady Forest DwellerParticipant
Yes. I am under a canopy of 8o-100 yr old trees. All 13 acres is old growth forest. Now if they start flying drones in I’ll have a problem.November 6, 2018 at 1:38 am #3201
You don’t know someone till you are blood or spill blood. Nice people in normal can turn into animals when it becomes tight.
I get along with most of my neighbours I would trust none in difficult times. Friend only goes so far if you are eating and they are not.November 8, 2018 at 9:57 pm #3702
A great article on personal survival experience is at https://www.frfrogspad.com/disastr.htm
It is a series of emails relating to Katrina and he had a place that some other people went to. Also some observations about lessons learned and stories of some things that happened.
About feeling isolated in a small town where everybody else has known everybody for years- They really don’t for the most part know what it feels like to be a newcomer and they already have a lot of friends so they don’t feel they need any.
Maybe you can find other newcomers too. Going to a church and getting to know people that way may help. Yeah, I’ve been there. It just takes time to feel like you belong. And there are always some nice people. One advantage is you more easily learn who the nuts are.November 11, 2018 at 8:24 pm #4087
I live in a busy, suburban area. I have two close neighbors that are sort of friendly. But most people on my block will not acknowledge us. I’m not too terribly bothered by that honestly. Being trusting is difficult. I think paying close attention to my neighbors behavior can tell me a lot about how they are. I know strength in numbers is important for security. I have a few individuals that my husband and I have had trusting friendships with and they have a variety of useful skills but as far as I know they are not true “preppers”. I think if the %&$# hits the fan these people will be able to form a group with us and pool our resources and skills. Is this ideal? No, of course not, but living in suburbia there aren’t too many prospects that are into the self reliance life style. So I suspect my husband and I will have to make careful choices and make the best of it.April 30, 2019 at 7:10 am #18112
Hello, I’ve read everyone’s take on trust, so far. Trust is definitely a touchy topic for just about anyone with life experience. I.e., we are born into life trusting and vulnerable then little by little or all at once our trust is corrupted and innocence is lost…
I’m a de facto survivalist, a regular schmuck who recognizes the value of independent thinking and self-reliance. And has begun making adjustments through research, personal economic adjustments (ridding debt reliance, entrepreneurship versus j.o.b.), and experience and practice, steering away from the “oh, everything is gonna be fine” lifestyle.
Back to trust, I’m obviously no expert on the subject of life, in general, but do have the sense to say that even the “best of friends” can get <i>shady </i>under pressure. That supposed network of “good folk” can go sour and the unworthy neighbor written-off could be the one the “rocks” and decency. You just never know. All that glitters ain’t gold.
So then, my take is, do trust. Yes, be cautious and discerning. But don’t be too chicken to trust. Don’t be stiff-necked to the newcomer. Don’t be shady.
I’ll end by mentioning, in retrospect, when I consider those untrusting are often untrustworthy themselves. Myself included. I think we’ve all been there, both sides of the coin. So when it comes to trust, start with the mirror…just sayin’.April 30, 2019 at 1:35 pm #18240April 30, 2019 at 3:21 pm #18253
This should not be an oversimplified issue of “do trust” or “do not trust.”
There are MANY levels of trust, in between “slightly” to “completely.” You start at the lowest level and take at least one year to move someone up to the next level. Give them slightly greater litmus tests of integrity and loyalty at each step along the way. Complete, or even “almost” complete trust should be something that takes at least five years to achieve.
Obviously, you can use common sense checklists and intuition to weed out most people, before allowing them into that starting, “slight trust” level. But you better start the process soon, so you can have at least a few trustworthy allies at hand when you really need them!
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